I went back and read your other comments and my comment still mostly stands. Personally I wouldn’t date someone who says things like “I don’t wanna hear about you shagging other people” whether I was monogamous or non monogamous. There is judgment there whether you understand that or not. All of the people I’ve dated who have said that eventually turned out to be judgmental, sex negative, jealous or some combination of those. And it is not made better by adding “I’m not judgmental, I have poly friends!”

Saying monogamous people are threatened by non monogamy isn’t me passing judgment. It’s based on the real life experiences I’ve had with monogamous people. I would never describe monogamous people as inherently abusive but thanks for lumping me in with that. I’ve certainly seen people use monogamy as a way to control and isolate their partners and I’ve seen healthy examples of monogamy.