I'm wondering what would happen if I put on my dating profile that I'd like to look at and share porn with someone. Seriously, it's this part of my life I feel like I can never share, and I want to. Just like showing someone your favorite bands, when you find some porn and it's like, "Damn, that's a really hot one," you want someone to share that experience with you. In fact, saying that makes it sound really obvious that that should be a thing sex partners do with each other, but yet I've literally never gotten to do that with anyone in my life.

I remember once I talked with a BDSM girl on a dating site about our different kinks. That was...really refreshing. I wish women could understand how that stays in my head more than the 200 conversations about job and family and other random stupid shit I've had on dating sites, and it does so because (gasp) it involves actually connecting about something, instead of bullshit smalltalk that just makes me wonder how far I still am from sex with that person.