Echo comments about sticking to your guns if you feel like you won't be, and I have a kid (part-time custody). I'm doing my best, but I think I'm of the "not cut out for it" camp and I knew immediately that I was done at one, which led to my ex-wife divorcing me because she wanted more (got the snip as soon as the divorce was final). I enjoy like... 65% of the time I spend with my kid? Maybe? What makes me realise I'm not cut out for it is that fact that I completely can't identify with the whole "it's the most rewarding/best thing you'll do in your life" spiel. I think that selfless part of me is broken. I know theoretically what I should be doing and do it, but it's not my default and have constantly remind myself to. I'm happy for other parents if they truly feel that way, but I can't help but shake the feeling they're lying to themselves and most would take it back if they could. There is a beautiful moment here and there, but overall parenting is basically the most boring and expensive high-stakes activity on the planet. I love my kid, do everything in my power to do right by him, and think I'm a pretty good dad overall (other people insist that I am and that I'm just hard on myself), buuuut as horrible as it is to say (and my kid will never hear this)... the time we spend together isn't even the third most interesting thing I do in a given week. I relish every moment I have for myself. Every time I drop him off at his mom's, there is a part of me that's pumping my fist in the air in relief.