I can’t say anything to my partner like that atm, he’s very insecure and even if I have a personal problem, it will some how be his fault. I can’t get angry or complain cause it’s his fault and don’t even try and broach something he’s done. He wasn’t always like this but, it’s new and I am unsure if it’s a defensive mechanism, as though he’s trying to avoid his own issues by not being able to handle mine or ours. I am getting gas lit all the time , if he’s done something wrong and I react, it’s poor me , I did wrong, downward spiral or self loathing and i apparently hate him and don’t want to be around him. It’s very frustrating, especially when it’s out of character.