Thanks for your detailed reply.

Find as many fun activities to do with the other person as possible. If you both love the activity, great, but if they love the activity and you are ok with it, that is good, too. Shared fun activities is the heart of bonding. So go to a book fair with her. Take walks. Even watch TV together. Find a series and make a ritual of fixing coffee or popcorn and talk about it. Read a book together. You can even read it aloud to each other every night. Take a class together, like real estate, drawing, or music.

That's me to a T. We do a fair bit together as a family, but we very rarely do things without our son. When he's asleep we'll usually resort to our separate laptops, phones, or books with minimal interaction.

Recently my wife has even told that the pressure to spend a lot of time together as a family is driving her away. However, this is coming from someone who spends an average of 10 hours a day at her teaching job. For 10 months of the year she'll see our son an average of 2-3 hours a day.