Relationship building is super important and there is nothing wrong with doing that. I would actively encourage relationship building when people can. Values also play a huge role in relationships and people have values they won’t budge on and values they will budge on.

Generally in my experience, it’s always religion, politics, money, and how kids should be raised. Should spanking be a thing or not when it comes to kids and stuff like that. The reason I bring this up is because if I know a woman is super religious and I am not, then I am most likely not going to take a chance on her because I’m not religious. Most people should have a couple of things they are dead set on and then other trivial things that don’t matter as much. Both parties have to compromise. I don’t know what you specifically value so I can’t give any input on it.