Congratulations on your pregnancy! I think so, I wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable and asking too much of him. I have no frame of reference as to the role of the father in baby rearing (obviously I was too young to remember when I was a baby and I don't want to ask my parents because it raises awkward questions) which is why I've asked the question here, so I can see how other people do it. At the moment I stay at home with the baby, but the evenings he spends on the computer so I'm with her in the evenings too. I cook our dinner and clean the house (I understand that this can take a backseat to give me some free time but the cat came back riddled in fleas last week, as if there wasn't enough for me to deal with.) I give her her dinner, her bath and put her to bed on my own. She is still breastfeeding and a terrible sleeper so I do the nights on my own too. I'm absolutely exhausted and feel so unsupported. I've asked him to help but he doesn't seem to get it and the baby isn't used to him so she just cries for me when he watches her (read: sits her in the same room as him whilst he plays on the computer)

I've tried speaking to him about it. Nothings changed. I haven't slept more than 3 hours at a time in 7 months.

I'm starting to realize after a few replies to this post that he is simply not doing enough. He isn't bonding with her. He isn't parenting.