so many people try to claim on abuse and disregard anyone else’s experience so they can claim more ‘victim points’, i hate that terminology but it’s only way i can describe it.

my nMom was severely neglected and emotionally abused by her mother and uses it as an excuse when anyone calls her on her shit. “maybe you’re right, i see why my family hated me and treated me the way they did!” (usually that specific monologue is followed by crocodile tears).

when i was 13 i was groomed and s*a by a 39yr old man. a couple years later i ran away after my dad nearly beat me to death. she uses both of those situations to simultaneously disregard my trauma by telling me this situations were both my doing and that i gave her ptsd. she always says i’ll never understand what it’s like to have a hard life lmfao.