I've posted this before but...

I was arrested last year for allegedly attacking my ex girlfriend in my own house, after I had told her I had moved on and was dating someone new. She decided that 4 am would be fantastic time to break in so we could talk about things, because she knew I would, and I quote, "be awake, getting ready for work."

A little background: we were together for over two years, but things had become increasingly complicated between us, and I lost whatever feelings I had for her. She was a greedy, manipulative bitch, with a lot of baggage, and it was only getting worse. I don't know how I continued to let her stick around, but I'm pretty sure I need therapy now. Anyway... she fell on hard times, and was kicked out of her apartment last year due to a physical altercation with her sister/roommate for which she was arrested last year. I told her to come and stay in the spare room at my place for a week or two while she figured it out. 9 months later, she was still here, and I'd had enough of it by month 6, but she paid her way (barely), so it was almost hard to complain, but it was weighing heavy on my ability to improve my life as she became increasingly bent on trying to get back together with me. Toward the end of it, she even tried sneaking into my bed while I was sleeping, and I lost my shit every time, as I was sort of seeing someone else, but she didn't know yet. So finallg, I told her, and also told her she had to fucking leave. So, after being yelled at and telling me I was an asshole for 'leading her on' and throwing things at me, she packed up all of her things, and left. No contact after the first day.

Fast forward about a week, suddenly she's standing in my bedroom while I try to get ready for work at 4 IN THE MORNING, UNINVITED AND UNANNOUNCED. I told her to leave, that this was over and that she needed to move the fuck on a d get out of my life. She tried stealing my things, destroyed my phone, hit me with her fists, my shoes and and whatever else she could get her hands on, tackled me to the ground, bit me and even attemped to key my car once I finally got her to get out of the house.

So, like an idiot I call the cops. They show up and she immediately begins to cry and says I went crazy and attacked her. After speaking with the police and even having my injuries examined, which included bite marks #onmyback, I was arrested on charges of domestic battery and domestic abuse. I missed work that day, have had to hire an attorney, and spend the last three months in court and several thousand dollars just to settle the case, and my charges have been reduced and I've been offered a simple ordinance violation for disorderly conduct, with only a money penalty. It settles in two weeks at my final court date. She was arrested for bail jumping and also battery, and we have since been barred from contact with each other.

That crazy bitch has cost almost certainly cost me one job opportunity as a corrections officer and could still jeopardize my eligibility for an armed asset transport agent position with another company, and could have lost me my firearms rights all because she didn't want me to move on, and ALL because I am a guy. I was straight up told by my attorney, and by several officers, that if I was female, the likelihood that I'd have been arrested is slim to none.

It's straight up sexist. They immediately assumed that because I am a man, I was the primary aggressor, even though she broke into my house at 4 am, she beat the living fuck out of me, and she caused a scene when they arrived.

Fuck the police, fuck the justice system, and fuck double standards. With all due respect, if women want to be treated equally in society, they need to be held to EXACTLY the same standards as every man in the eyes of the law.

Edit: My current girlfriend stuck by me through all of this and has been nothing short of amazing to me since we've met. Polar opposite of the last one. I cannot express my gratitude for her love and support.