When I broke up with my long term ex, many years ago, I stayed for the last night but no sex- unimaginable at that point. We connected emotionally so much that we both wanted the familiarity and consolation of being close but knew that it was time to part ways after many years. Not until I had a child many years later did I ever feel that kind of emotional connection to another person. Love is a weird thing. You can't pick and choose it. Sometimes it's intense and some times it's just enough to hold things together. As a kid I never believed that Phil Collins songs were actually a primer for adult relationships until I had been through a few.