There's a sub called "waiting to try," I think? and a sub called TTC, for trying to conceive, and that might be a better place for this question. This sub consists largely of young women who are more at the stage of life where pregnancy is to be avoided like the plague lol.

But, I've been thinking of the same things and this is what I've been thinking about: first, the cost- of pregnancy, birth, possible complications and interventions. Money-wise, do we have the resources to be comfortable taking this on? When would we be comfortable starting to try?

Pregnancy and birth support: Basically both be on the same page about what a pregnancy and birth entails, and all the options and possible complications. Would you want to do birth classes as a couple? Genetic testing? What will you do if they test positive for a genetic disorder?

What do you imagine a supportive partner would look like when you are pregnant? I can't cite specifics, but there are resources out there to provide men with information about pregnancy issues like changes in mood, libido, what morning sickness is like, etc. From my experience lurking in pregnancy subs, a lot of partners are not knowledgeable or expecting a lot of things that come up in pregnancy and it can cause conflict.

Childcare- how do you imagine daily responsibilities will go when caring for this kid? Who will do what? Will they go to daycare? How much would that be? Will there be a stay at home parent at any point?

Morals/values/traditions: How was your upbringing as a child? What would you want to keep and what would you want to change? Do you want to raise your child in a certain religion? Spanking? Circumcision?

Extended family: How big of a role do you want grandparents to play? Is either set going to insist on following any religious practices like baptism? Would this be okay, or not? What boundaries do you want in place in regards to family? Are there any members you don't want around kids, or any concerns you have? Discuss ways to ensure that you both stand together as a team and are willing to step up if your parent is the one who gets pushy or invades boundaries.