So I'm someone who has always dated older. My husband is notably older. (For the record, since this seems to come up when discussing age differences in relationships, he was broke and jobless when we started dating him; he's horrible at managing money, and he had gotten fired from his last job because he accidentally flooded a hotel room paid for by his job by falling asleep with the bath on and he wasn't sorry at all since he hated the job.)

The reason I find older men attractive is surely very complex (ie there must be many overlapping reasons, both those I'm aware of and those I don't really understand), but the moist conscious one is that I enjoy the company of people with a lot of life experience, and I like to know what I'm getting. A 25yo may change a lot, but if you date a 35yo you have a basic idea of who this person will likely stay indefinitely.

But most of my platonic friends are also older, so I have no idea what to say abouy women who only date older despite preferring friendships with same-age peers. Well, I guess I can just say they're sort of stupid in my view: nobody should date anyone that they would not enjoy hanging out with even minus the sex. When I asked my husband, "Would you have hung out with any of your exes as friends? As in, even if they had been men, would you have found their company pleasant and believed them to be good people?" he got this astonished look and said, "Holy shit. I never thought of it that way before, but no."