My twin was diagnosed with BPD after emotionally and physically abusing me for our entire lives. She distorts every interaction and destroys everyone that gets close enough to her. She refuses to seek help that people with BPD need desperately. I commend anyone that seeks treatment. I just want to hug every single one of them.

Sadly, people with BPD oftentimes frame their diagnosis as a badge for convincing others of the fact that they are the true victims. They gloss over the things they've done to harm other people and focus more on how there's a very justified stigma associated with BPD. They routinely use their diagnosis as a blanket excuse for the abuse they perform on others close to them, and when they are held responsible for the pain they cause they claim that they are being stigmatized. Picture the biggest temper tantrum in the world, threats of suicide, histrionic displays of emotion like they are actors in a performance. It's the most rational thing to witness destructive behavior and run the other way, self preservation is the first job of every living thing. DBT can greatly help people with BPD, andi am so supportive of people that do the hard work to get better.

That being said, I've spent enough of my life being hurt by someone that refuses to acknowledge or accept that she isn't the only human that has dignity and worth. I refuse to interact with someone that has similar traits because seeing those traits visible means they are not getting help. Sometimes theres a damn good reason why people take a good look at someone and head for the hills.