I'll start off by saying that I've done erotic RP for a long time now (I have some side posts to /r/dirtypenpals that I'm building more of), so I'm probably not the norm here.

I've never masturbated to anyone that I know in real life (work colleagues, friends, etc). Even the ones I really, like. I can't remember having tried it in the past and I don't remember the idea ever being appealing to me.

It's not usually a particular person though. Rather, I have this approach of creating a scenario of sorts. Sometimes I can't really decide on a particular scenario or a particular kind of porn that I like. Sometimes the real stuff works wonders, other times the drawn stuff is nicer, or maybe today's flavor is the written word. ASMR, particularly the stuff on /r/gonewildaudio can be scorchingly hot if done well. When all else fails, I sometimes turn to past RP logs or remembering fond times that I don't have the logs of (because it was 4-5 years+ ago).

Anyhoo, it's usually a scenario of sorts. For example, my first prompt to /r/dirtypenpals Spring is here, so the dragon of the mountain seeks tribute has been a long-running fantasy of mine. The thought of being this mighty dragon that subjugates a lot of different fantasy races. I particularly like the thought of lesser-referenced races (such as orcs and imps). The contrast of this big, strong predator to a less-big, but still predator-ish kind of woman (an orc), or something more helpless (such as an imp).

I go off of thoughts and feelings. Most of my fantasies tend to be pretty fucked up, honestly. Nearly 100 percent of the time, there's going to be domination involved. So I usually put myself in the mind of the dominant person, but I don't necessarily make a character or a name for them. They just exist as a thought. When I close my eyes, my mind is better at imagining scenarios than pictures. It's...sort of like having a really heavily tinted window over a picture screen.

I've got more kinks than I know what to do with sometimes. So rather than trying to satisfy everything, sometimes it's just a matter of what the flavor of the day is...and sometimes it's hard to decide. I might start off with one idea, then change to another in the middle of things. But if that happens, it's usually because penis decides "It's time to look at porn" and I'm trying to figure out more of which.

Other times though, I've got my targets locked on one particular thing. This is especially the case if I find a REALLY good RP partner. For me, it's about the setting, the backstory, and the feelings...unless it's just