I get that. Everyone is busy. I have a full time job that requires me to be on call 24/7. My boyfriend and I just got a house that I had to fully renovate and furnish the interior in 1 month. His kids live with us 50% of the time and while that doesn’t “make me a parent” I help take care of them. All my other friends are just as busy as everyone else.

I just feel that as my “best friend” I’d want the courtesy of not having to bug her over and over again because I guarantee that she knew way before that she wasn’t going to go. I also know for a fact that she’s not “too busy” to FaceTime and text her new boyfriend all the time or go away with him on short notice out of town (without her kids). Or that she’s not too busy to go out with her coworkers after work for drinks, or out of state for one of their birthdays.

Honestly, all of that is fine. But I also know she’s going to freak out if I say I don’t want her to be my MOH anymore, even though I don’t think she sees me as much of a priority in terms of friendship. That’s all well and good but I just don’t really feel like having to pull all the weight between the two of us anymore.