This is called "Day Game". Ladies you really shouldn't be so hard on guys who cold approach you when your shopping. I'm a guy and I have tried it and it is fucking hard. No bullshit, I would rank it up there as one of the hardest things I could do with my life. Now this particular approach walking up to a girl and asking if she has a boyfriend isn't a good approach! However just the fact that he tried it I commend him. At least he had the courage to approach and talk to you. That approach is extremely beginner stuff. Extremely simple and stupid but enough to get some sort of response and learn something. He probably never did something like that before.
As for myself. I am very sorry I didn't approach you very well. You're beautiful, I'm very nervous and I am completely winging it! I literally have no idea what I'm doing. I don't know what the hell I'm walking into. Your father, husband, boyfriend could be standing five feet from you and I just didn't notice. (my ultimate fear and it could be very very bad) I have to work up the courage to talk to you which I can do about 60% of the time. If I'm trying to talk to you and you saw me a few minutes ago that's because I failed the courage part the first time and now I'm forcing myself to try to talk to you. I have to get you to stop for a minute. Then I have to come up with something that is sort of interesting to talk about based on what I see and hope to god you are interested or give me enough time to talk so I can get you interested. Good luck and god be with any man who is trying to pick up women in stores and malls. Your going to need all the help you can get and multiply that by infinity if you are shy like I am. Oh my god. Just thinking about it freaks the shit out of me.
The reason we do it ladies is because if we can go out to a store or a mall and get dates with women then dating has just become a numbers game. You turn me down or blow me off it's perfectly cool. I can walk into the next isle and try again with another woman. Store by store isle by isle. I get into a meaningful relationship with you and I love you for x years. Then one day you drop me. If I remember the skills I learned to meet you then its right back to store by store isle by isle. It will take me no time to find someone better.
Ladies, this is reddit you can believe what ever the hell you want. But I'm a good guy. I have my faults just like anyone else, but I truly believe that I am a good guy and I mean well. I'm also a good catch. If any woman who I've approached and didn't give me the time of day is listening to this. This is my standard operating procedure for a first date. When I take a girl out on a first date. She's getting food, a flower, I will open her car door and I will do my utmost best to make the date fun and interesting. What ever your terms are I can meet and I am perfectly fine with them. I don't need to know where you live. I'm completely cool with you driving yourself and doing a first date in a public area. You can also leave when ever you want. My first dates are no muss, no fuss, no craziness, no jujitsu, no expectations, no plans for the future. Just a straight up date have a good time.
Ladies, If a guy approaches you in an honest and respectful manner throughout your day. Please give him at least five minutes even if your not single. Your helping the next lady who may have use for him. He needs all the practice he can get. Engage him and really try to contribute to the conversation. If you can tell he's trying to pick you up then ask him "Are you trying to pick me up?" If he says yes talk about it. If you like him then keep working it. Let him take you on an instant date to the food court. You just may meet your husband or a serious boyfriend. I honestly believe that if a guy approaches like the way I described he is a good guy. Maybe not someone you will connect with but he is a good person.
If he was a creep he would stick to tinder, bars, or online dating or something else. Creeps wouldn't have the courage or determination to do what's needed to have any sort of success with this method of dating.It's just too hard to do and it takes a lot of effort for months if not years to have some success with it.