I can understand how one could question my choices and yes it was blackmail. I am ok with that. I did what I had to to protect myself. I left out a lot of details as far as his behaviour (bringing strangers into our home when I was away and other crazy shit) which led to me working from home and trying to protect my space/home. He wasn’t a violent person but the things said in his communications to these strangers, he was putting me at real risk. I wanted to make sure that when I left that no part of him followed me. Ever.

Possibly the worst thing he did was two fold. We were still living together and a week after we broke up, he met a woman on craigslist, hooked up her the day after Christmas and the next day he was telling her he loves her, how they are going to get married etc..Skip ahead to Mid Jan. I find a place that is going to be available either Feb. 6th or 14th. He tells me that I need to go stay with someone if I haven’t moved by Valentines Day because he wants to have her stay the weekend. He’s already bought her gifts and a card - I laughed and said go ahead but it won’t end well.

He did marry her, awesome, thank God I dodged that bullet. He left me feeling very exposed and unsafe at the time and in order to protect myself from him was to threaten him. It worked and I have zero regret.