Totally agree. The problem in currently experiencing is that I’ve had anxious attachment from my parents raising me, every friend I’ve had abandoning me, and every guys I’ve dated cheating on me. I’ve never had a relationship of any kind last in my life, let alone a healthy one. I previously dated a guy with avoidant attachment for 11 years, and that made my anxious attachment much worse.

However, now I’m almost 30 and finally have that no bull shit and full love and commitment with my current boyfriend who is very secure, but my jealousy is out of control. I’m trying to undo a lifetime of abandonment to fully be trusting and able to relax. I’m so sensitive and take minor things personally against me. I feel too needy trying to make up for all the hurt I’ve experienced. I’m in the middle of reading ‘Attached’ by Levine and Heller, as recommended in another post, trying to get some clarity. I don’t want to be like this anymore. I’d like to be secure and relax.