She has fibromyalgia? So she can't really work, because it's painful? That's kind of a difficult situation. She's elderly now, so it's harder to find a job. So how about, if you can afford it, and you still care about your mother or have any good feelings towards her or happy memories at all, or even if you don't really like her or care about her, but just want to do something to help out or get your family off your back, maybe you could consider a one-time financial gift, a small lump sum maybe, something you could afford that won't hurt you, with the understanding that it is a one time gift and she has to handle it herself to help solve her problems. And it won't be repeated. Then give it, willingly, cheerfully, and with compassion, and then remove yourself from any further drama surrounding your mom, no more involvement, your part is done, you don't need to worry, stress, or have anything else to do with her situation. You might actually even feel good about doing this. But if this isn't a good idea for you, nevermind, I apologize for suggesting it, I was just trying to think of a creative solution that you would be able to do. Best of luck with this situation.