i got some good answers against why it makes people uncomfortable without being degrading. if someone is against it because they don't personally agree with how a woman is treated in such a job, or if it just makes them uncomfortable, or if they'd rather have their partner and their partners body/sexuality to themselves, then that's completely fair. THEY'RE the answers i was looking for.
'all strippers are dumb whores' is not an acceptable answer. it's fine not to agree with sex work, it's wrong to take it out on the women.
and i definitely see where you're coming from, but where i live there's NO WAY i'd be financially stable waiting tables. if i worked 2 jobs, maybe 3, then i'd be okay for sure. but then i wouldn't be able to go to school, and i'd still end up in debt most likely. also, jobs are REALLY hard to get down here. i'm thinking of doing accounting first because i'm super good at maths and it's only a couple of years, so after that i could use that as an income while working from home, still be financially stable (hopefully) and use that to get me through to my phd. it's not just getting into university, that's not a problem for me. my issue is getting through uni, renting a place, paying bills, eating food. i can make enough to do that on my own after a couple years at uni but before then i need some help. stripping/camming seems like it would be the easiest option for me.
there are also times where i get labour-pain severity pain for days at a time and have to spend days on pain killers unable to look after myself. the flexibility i'd have from sw would mean that i can take a little bit of time off and it's okay. if i'm too sore to work one night it's okay. that kind of thing doesn't go down too well if you're in retail or hospitality.
BUT that's not quite why i asked this question. i really don't want to be justifying my side anymore. i just wanted to know some genuine reasons why/why not someone would date a sex worker and i've got my answers. some people are just uncomfortable, some people are downright disrespectful, some people don't mind. i'm happy with that