You're getting so much shit for not having an abortion, not giving her up at infancy and giving her up at 2. I agree that those wet all far better options and that your daughter will be quite emotionally damaged from this. And look how it could have been avoided:

Abortion rights. Everything could have been avoided and resulted in the abortion you wanted if not for anti-abortion activists successfully eroding abortion access by making sure you waste as many weeks as possible "jumping through hoops". I suggest that everyone trying o distance themselves as CF people from OP by trashing her to think seriously about the fact that this entire shitshow would have been avoided if not for the fact that it happened in a country where anti-abortion activism has successfully eroded women's basic rights over their own bodies.

Breeder culture. After being forced to give birth, you wanted to give her up but was pressured into keeping her, because the immense pressure and expectation that mothers always love being mothers, and if they don't, they're mistaken; it's "just PPD" (like that's no big deal), so basically her opinion can be discounted because she's being irrational. She'll realise everyone is right and fall in line sooner or later.

Well, you can't say you didn't try. For two fucking years. At some point, you have to be able to say "I don't want to do this," you have to be able to say, "No, my not wanting to do this is not a phase," and after two years, yes, you would know for damn sure it's true. Apparently, you still had people trying to convince you that your dislike for parenthood was just a phase. Yes, of course you should have given her up at birth, but how can people not see that you would have had you not been talked out of it by the powerful breeder culture that we critique here daily?

Can't people see that what happened to you—forcing women to give birth and talking the parents put of adopting out by convincing them that they'll love parenthood if they try it (with each year not "counting" because it's "hard now but it gets easier")—is what proponents of breeder culture want for all of us?