(14F) How can I overcome self-loathing and become comfortable with my sexuality?

It will be difficult for you if you try to solve your problems in a straight world, taking advice from straight people. First thing you need to do is find LGBT communities, even if just online, and take active part in them. Find LGBT friends in real life, go (or sneak out) to events if there are any. For very young people it is often hard to deal with any differences whatsoever that they have, because you've never really seen much of the world. And the little amount of what you've seen seems to be the only normal, acceptable and possible way of life. Consume LGBT culture - art, books, movies. Preferably not the ones where the women are exorcised, persecuted and die (yeah, there's plenty of this stuff, people like to see women suffer). You may be interested in more scholarly takes on homosexuality, as scientific papers, studies in literature and art, historical excursions in LGBT life and rights etc. I don't think that you can just repeat ''I love myself, I love myself'' as a mantra and something will change. You need to actively engage and understand what scares you, that's the only way of overcoming fear.

So the Dr. was like “Ok then, I’m sure it’s just a phase.”

It sounds like your doctor is somewhat stupid, sorry. Questions about sexuality shouldn't be asked in front of other people, and his reply makes no sense. Any chance of you changing the therapist due to some made up excuse? As a teen I happened to attend a psychologist for unrelated reasons and once I asked her what she thought about lesbians (it somehow came up in the conversation). So she went into a long diatribe about women being confused, scared of themselves and men, needing help etc. Trust me, you don't need advice on sexuality from people who have 0 understanding of sexuality. It will only confuse you further.

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