She doesn’t play games. She doesn’t have time to just fool around. She takes her relationships seriously. If she took relationships seriously, why is she not together with the father of her children?

My first inclination after reading this was to get pissed at the assumption that this applies to all single mothers; I'm a widow, my husband died - it certainly wasn't by choice that I am no longer with my sons father.

Then I read this:

In fact, do look further. There are exceptions to the rule, but in general single moms are horrible mothers. A woman can only be a good mother if there is a father present. Studies after studies proves this. The single most negative outcome for a child is to be raised by a single mother.

And being completely honest with myself... I was not a great mother before I met my fiance. I felt guilty as hell raising my son without his father. No, it wasn't by choice, I didn't leave him/he didn't leave me, he died, but still here was my little boy being raised by a single mom. I over-compensated for his lack of a father by giving in all the time, not setting & following through with boundaries and rules.

I am incredibly lucky that my fiance stepped in and (without being condescending or making me feel like a piece of shit) pointed out the disservice I was doing to my son by not having structure/rules in place. The change in my sons behavior, hell, in my behavior in raising my son, is drastically different now that there is a man in the house.

I've read enough TRP "never date a single mom" posts to know how lucky I am that my fiance "took a chance" on me, on us, and I know that without a doubt my son is far better off being raised in a two-parent home than he was when I was alone.