I [21] want an abortion. My boyfriend [25] of 4 years doesn't. Your insight would be greatly appreciated

If your only reason for going through with the pregnancy is because you want to be able to maintain this relationship, then that's a pretty shitty reason for bringing a child that you don't want into this world. (I share the same sentiment as you. I'm not a fan of children and don't feel the desire to have any either, but I wouldn't have one just to keep someone around). Considering you don't want a child, especially not right now and not when you can't even afford to raise one, you will resent him (your boyfriend) and probably yourself. Don't do this, OP. He's not a good person, won't be better as a father, doesn't have his priorities straight, has no source of income, has proven, not once but TWICE, that he's not faithful. Do you think that's going to change even if you have his child? That he'll miraculously grow up (which is what he needs to do, and a lot of it) and take responsibility and initiative? Do you think that this will improve your relationship? I honestly highly doubt it. Why would you want to risk it? Because MAYBE he'll stop cheating? Because MAYBE he'll stop invading your privacy? Because MAYBE he'll finally get off of his lazy ass and try to support himself? I don't mean to be harsh, but wake up, OP.

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