I (22) am still angry at my mom for not teaching my about basic grooming when I was a kid

Growing up...

  • my parents beat me, but they also took care of me. Does it excuse the abuse I had to deal with? No. Did I seek out help and help me deal with my issues so I can move on? Yes.
  • didn't know much about doctors/dentists/decent cloths. Did I stink over it? No. Saved money, went to a dentist, got invisalign. Browse reddit to learn about how to at least dress myself properly and better take care of myself.
  • kids use to bully me because of my bad breath, my ripped cloths and bookbag. Wish my parents took the time and effort to teach me better, but they were first generation immagrants in the country. They had their own struggles navagiting the world and trying to give me a better future (in their eye).
  • had to walk home alone because my dad wasn't around and my mom worked. I came home to a tiny apartment and ate cereal, and watched cartoons and did homework. Hell, I'm greatful we had an apartment to come home

Was life perfect? Nope. Could it have been worse? OH HELL YEA!

I'm grown up, I got my shit together. I forgave me mom for the past. I see it in her sometimes that she regrets a lot of things growing up, but she had to do what she had to do to survive. We have a good relationship. Growing up, I sould sometimes cry myself to sleep wanting to just die and leave the world behind. Now, I'm greatful to be alive and cherish everything I have and always look forward to another day.

It's okay to be angry. But after a certain point, you need to take control of your life and your emotions. Have a talk with her. You got angry, that's fine. What will you do about it? Will you continue to be angry or would you talk to her?

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