Early days & he pointed out an annoying thing that I do - does he think I’m a burden & should I move on?

I’m not sure exactly what your guy said, which could change things - but it sounds like you might be over thinking things. If you’re exhausted and have a long busy day and let the person seeing know this and they continue to talk for 20-30 minutes ignoring what you said all the time wouldn’t you say something? I mean I love sleep and I get being exhausted, so I feel I may be biased though, but it also feels like you’re just blatantly ignoring his needs.

Then you take him saying something as a personal attack. If he did actually use the term “annoying” I could see how that would upset you and is the wrong thing to say. You disregarded what he said about leaving when he says he’s tired and just arbitrarily said you’ll always be watching the clock and make sure to leave at 10. Seems like a pouty/tantrum thing to say tbh. Having a conversation about him wanting to go to sleep when he says he wants to go to sleep should not be the dealbreaker you are making it out to be.

Then you start being upset that you’re too much of a convenience and putting in most of the effort. I actually agree with you on this one depending on context. Does he not take you on actual dates? Do you invite him over despite your flatmates and he says no? Or is this more of a weekday thing where he has a schedule of taking care of his dogs after the gym and you want to spend time and have sex (which is always better without flatmates) and alone time, so you always offer to come there? Then on the weekends you go on actual dates

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