been together for 7 and a half years.
Mine was 5 and half.
We were our first everything.
She was my first real lover and companion. I also had so much amazing sex and different sexual acts that it felt like we were losing our virginity.
We had been working towards moving in together when the time came we both realised we would be giving up things we still wanted to do if we moved in together.
I am 30 she's 52, yes monumentally big age difference but love is love and fuck all those who has anything against it. We were slowly toying with the idea about living together but her son and her concerns about us living together made her skeptical..
I want to study a master's and would have to put that plan on hold if we lived together, also we both feel the need to have other relationships and live the single life before committing to someone like that.
She hated how we were stuck, not progressing after so many amazing years of having fun. So we took a "break" but shit went backwards and made us even worse. Breaks and silence just gives you time to think shit, build up doubt and fears. Do shit that hurts the other person. Lose trust and honesty.
I asked him what his ideal situation in the future would be,
She asked me the samething. I really couldn't think that far ahead, I just knew I wanted to be with her and live by whatever way we can. She wasn't pleased by that answer. She needed to be assured that I can take care of her physically and financially, she didn't want a bum or loser.
he said he would like to have other relationships and be single for a while and then if things permit it have a life together. My ideal situation is exactly the same. We both know we can't promise anything because we might as well meet another person with whom we can have a life together.
You guys are idiots and you're only hurting your relationship like that. The fact you know he's going to love, fuck, hangout with other women will eat you up and destroy any form of trust you had in him. Same with him, he'll hate you, distrust you, think of you as a slut when he knows you dated other men. Men are just biologically like that.
We broke up not because we have stopped loving each other, or being attracted, or because we cheated or abused each other. We were just too young to commit that way and feel the need to be on our own for a while.
No, you two broke up because he lost interest in you and wanted to find someone else. He just gave you the illusion that after a while, you two will come back with more experience and knowledge on how to handle the relationship. You just road with the idea and didn't do shit about it, you just convinced yourself, believe that stupid idea of his and agreed with him.
The thought of never being able to have another chance in our relationship kills me. What can I do?
Now you're fucking hurting, feeling stupid, naive and lost. You love him but the idiot doesn't love you. If you two wanted to change and make it change, then you two should've talk, communicated and acted on it.
TL;DR Broke up because we were too young to commit, we still dream with a life together in some years if there's the possibility. Feeling depressed about loosing this.
Using age is not an excuse. Maturity comes when you actually think and stop, find ways to talk, find ways to compromise and commit. My ex is over 50 and still acts like like she's 20. I'm 30 and I act like a child at times.
Age is not a reason, it's not a cause. It's you.