I [26/m], a virgin, just started a serious long-distance relationship with a girl I've had a crush on for a year (32/f), who has tons of relationship experience (good and bad).

LDRs are extremely difficult to navigate.

Yeah, but I don't care. And we agreed that we will figure that out once we get to a place in our relationship that makes sense. I am open to making the move and I have nothing significant stopping me.

She has been in many abusive relationships.

I don't know exactly how many but it was only a few and they didn't last once the abuse started. I listed Abuse and cheating as examples of the bad relationship experiences she's had. It's hard really to explain all of them because they are private stories. I didn't see any significant red flags in her relationship history.

She has trust issues.

I said she 'might'. I actually don't think she does. She had a relationship recently in which she trusted a guy like 4 or 5 times and got lied to. I am willing to bet she will trust me. Old habits die hard and if anything, she has an issue trusting people too easily and I CAN be trusted.

She's 32F going out with an in-experienced 26yo.

Why is this a red flag? I'm not saying it's not, just curious.

She wants to have children soon. / Don't know if I can support them.

I am willing to do what it takes though and I'm not against having children. This is a possible issue but it can be solved.

How do I know what love is and whether she is 'special' or not?

This is more of a concern I have for her. She has very little reason to believe me.

I still feel like it's all too good to be true

Not a red flag. I'm not concerned.

I implore you to trust your instincts on this one. There are many many red flags showing here. You don't sound like partners on equal footing. Why don't you put this one on the backburner trust me your signing up for a world of hurt.

Yeah, no, I'm not doing that. I'm in for a world of hurt anyways if I were to break it off myself. I don't feel I'm risking much seeing it where it goes. She is much more at risk and has a lot more to lose than I do and I am really enjoying the relationship so far.

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