3. [Advice] 18/F/Graduating - lost my teens to depression; looking for a new path

[Advice] 18/F/Graduating - lost my teens to depression; looking for a new path

Before I say anything else, I just want to say that your story resonates with me deeply. I lost my childhood, teen years and am currently struggling through my 20s due to severe depression. I hope you are proud of yourself for being able to make progress with it, I can say from experience it is not an easy thing to do. Now, get ready for story time.

Your situation seems rather difficult, and, at 18, mine was in some ways similar. All I wanted to do with my life was play/perform/write music. I didn't have the skill set needed to do those things professionally, but I loved it fiercely and it was all I can see. Truthfully, I still love it more than anything but college really helped me expand my horizons in ways I didn't anticipate.

I, like you, loathed school. I literally almost failed out of high school and was adamant that as soon as I graduated I would never step foot in a classroom again. After some back and fourth, I ended up going to community college and it was probably the best decision of my life. I found a field that I really liked, graduated, transferred to a damn good uni and recently graduated!

I don't know where you are situated, but my high school was a mess and a total joke. Please do not judge the power/potential of education from your experiences there. I went from being a 2.0 student in high school to being a 4.0 student in college - and I'm not even joking. The professors are so much more qualified to teach you their subjects and so many of them were passionate about both teaching and the subject they are teaching.

I highly recommend you go to a community college (NOT UNIVERSITY) this upcoming term because you will not only be able to acclimate to what the college atmosphere, but have the chance to explore different topics with the immense financial burden brought fourth by a university AND you get to do your GEs in a smaller setting.

At the current moment, given all the limitations you listed, I'm not sure you could do much in terms of work; however, if you give community college a chance, you can find a subject you like, advanced yourself towards a certification, associates degree or transfer to a university and do so while in a relatively low pressure environment.

Don't limit your past experiences with the education system dictate/limit your future and potential. I really don't think choosing a random major will lead you towards anything fulfilling. Consider a CC and maybe you'll find a field you enjoy.

Good luck OP and feel free to follow up with any questions :)

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