Info - correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems like you didn't want a shower primarily because you didn't think the gifts would be good enough. You mention that you want specific items while your mom says they're too expensive. Also, you don't want a cheaper, "inferior" version of those items. Are you demanding a Gucci diaper bag and an exact replica of Kylie Jenner's custom baby stroller when you work at Taco Bell or something? Or do you want quality stuff that's not outrageously priced, you just happen to earn more than your mom and her friends, who are inclined to get stuff from thrift stores? What's your income, an example of a thing you want, and an example of what they'd get you instead?