I don't think I gave him enough credit in the post; he is very invested in our children. At the very least as much as I am. Admittedly, he paid to send all three of them to private school out of pocket, and wouldn't let me pay any of it. I don't want to disclose our income, but he makes considerably more than me, and felt he should pay. He had also adopted his half brother at one point because his father was very mentally ill. I think it's actually the opposite of what you said. I think he's so invested in our family that he feels working all these hours and making all this money will end up benefiting the kids.

As for saving the relationship, I would say yes. He doesn't have many friends, and I don't have any doubts that he doesn't love me, more that he knows a slave to medicine, and doesn't want to admit it, or know how to fix it.