YAH and YTA.

“- My son should be grateful. While we share DNA, I only dated his mum, May (not actual name) for all of 5 months back in uni. I was very clear with May that I didn’t want kids but apparently consent doesn’t go both ways. May put me through legal hell and ended up costing me tens of thousands of dollars over the years in child support, setting my own goals back.

- Instead of letting Jonah end up in a group home, I stepped up and took him in when May got sick. Instead of gratitude, I constantly have to deal with disrespect and attitude.

- Because of Jonah, my wife thinks I breached her trust all for something that happened well before I met her.

So listen, how am I the asshole here? I’ve taken in this kid into my home (a kid who btw will receive a sizeable inheritance in a few years thanks to May’s estate). I’ve given him a home, a family and fund his lifestyle, all at the cost of my own relationship.”

i read this bs and couldn’t go on.

you’re not doing well by treating your other kids better than this one because “may put you through legal hell”, it takes two to tango, she didn’t make you not use protection, take responsibility for your actions.

you’re not doing anyone a favour by taking care of your child, get a grip.

every sane person here has definitely said what i wanted to say, if you like don’t mend your relationship, you think coming on AITA to justify the weird way to treat your child is the best thing to do.