If I marry my boyfriend, our girls will be my bridesmaids. They are currently 7, 9, 19, 21. It will be a day of mani pedis, probably some chocolate fondue, maybe a late night sleepover party. I don’t really drink much, I definitely don’t party, and they’re not going to be the age of flower girl in a few years when marriage is on the table. Plus they’re way cooler than my friends lol.

Some people have way more family friendly weddings and activities than others. Mom has a right to be concerned, but OP could solve this by sharing with mom the exact plan for the bachelorette party.

Even the tattoo doesn’t bug me after 7 years… she clearly considers the girl her daughter. Personally she should wait til he puts a ring on it if that’s in their future plans, but I got a tattoo for my foster son I was adopting about 18 months into him living with me. He was already my kid even before the adoption was final, and I was getting them for my other kids too (they each drew me a heart).