I understand where you're coming from, but your character evaluation is waaay off. For one, I couldn't give a shit what anyone thinks. Our family reputation is pretty bad anyway since my sister was working as a prostitute, openly bulimic and selling coke. The people who matter don't care. I didn't help with my own little scandals. Also, I really like the man who raised both of my nephews, he's like an older brother to me considering he's been part of our family since I was 11. I absolutely don't think my nephew should be more

One of my big cornerstones is honesty. Our family has always been pretty bad at it, but since I moved out years ago, I tried to go a different way. I don't want family secrets, I hate everything about them. And I would have been devastated if I found out as a teen in school or elsewhere that my father is not my biological father and then be continuously lied to if I asked my family about it. Since my nephews have been born, I tried to be the honest person for them. If they ask me about anything, I tell them what I think is true and it's been like this fir years.

But I understand that this is a different thing apparently and I'm willing to accept that, even if I don't agree with it. I just hope I don't ever get asked directly by him.