NTA.

Why in the fuck would you give a shit about moles being removed if it boosts your child’s mental health? Or is something that makes them uncomfortable? I thought parents always wanted what’s best for their kids (use common sense with that statement) and not that it was said here, but it’s a common concept of “I’d kill for my child if needed” but you draw the line at two moles being removed? Had they been warts on his fingers that he didn’t like and wanted gone and they were frozen off would that have pissed her off too? I will say that out of respect you could have at least called her and told her what was up, but I still don’t think YTA here.