You’ve really hit the nail on the head. I grew up in an environment where my Mum did everything for everybody. I think I have grown up expressing love through action if that makes sense? In my last relationship this manifested itself as me doing 100% of the domestic chores. My ex presented himself as the opposite of this to begin with so I thought I’d found someone who wanted a more equal relationship.

I suppose somebody with NPD or narcissistic tendencies would have a field day with this. I know I’m too self sacrificing and rather than him taking advantage of me practically it turned out with me sacrificing my needs and happiness.

Thank you for taking the time to reply. It’s a lot to analyse all at once!