Thanks for the advice everyone. I didn't think about it before but another question I have is relating to the dating sites. Of the ones I've tried I've had the most "success" on OKC. My trouble is with the messaging. I always message first, but on the rare occasions that I get a response, very rarely does it go any further than 1 or 2 replies. My process involves reading the profile, finding common interests and message based on that. I have no trouble making friends irl, so I try to strike up the conversation based how I would meeting someone in person. I never just say hi or whats up, and I never say anything inappropriate so that's part of what made me assume that I'm not interesting? The lack of second replies is also what led me to believe the other problem was my weight, because they get so many messages on a daily basis, I imagine the way I look combined with being introverted puts me pretty low on the scape for being considered, because therebare just so many other better options. Not ttying to be negative, just trying to figure things out.