my nmum is exactly the same. after yet another giant outburst i had enough and went completely nc with her while living in the same house (i was 17 at the time, in hs with no money ) and didn’t speak to her, eat the food she brought (i am not allowed to cook without supervision because apparently i ruin all of her kitchenware and can’t be trusted) and would have to convince my dad to drive me 30mins to my grandmas house just so i could do washing (same situation with the laundry as the kitchen). In this 2 month period i lost about 15kgs from barely eating. After I went away on school camp (it was compulsory to go and had been paid for in my school fees) and came back, i waited for 3 hours for my dad to pick me up but he never came and called my friend to take me home. when i got home she came into my room to apologise for the first time but it was barely an apology it was a “these are all my excuses so actually you’re the one that should be apologising to me” apology. I didn’t forgive her and said she had to earn my trust back and for a moment there things got better and i started talking and eating again, but fast forward to now and she’s back in her old ways :(