Anyone ever get into a routine of mediocre first dates that lead to nothing?

As for getting sexual, to be honest I'm quite inexperienced in that regard and dont want to rush things with people personally. Maybe that's what I'm missing but at least at the moment, that's not my approach.

I failed pretty miserably at dating in my early to mid 20s until I learned this. It is actually quite important and you got to be willing to just put it out there without being nervous. You can actually get away with anything as long as you stay relaxed, smiling and don't lose that, if she pulls back or just shots you down. No big deal, just shrug shoulders and keep being awesome while not mention sex again.

But it's hard to do without experience.

Random options are to go "You seem cool and I like our chemistry. Let's see where it leads us, but just to be clear, if it keeps being good then I'm will do my best to get you naked" early in the date. Just drop something like that and then go a couple of hours just dating without mentioning sex

A lot of other options too .. I mean it's hard to advice on cause it is very based on reading the woman and being sure she is enjoying herself. You can't just drop something like that if she is tense and nervous. But yeah .. Sex ... You can talk openly about it. You can tell her that you're good at it. You can explore it with her .. but lack of experience will be a hindrance off course.

Enough .. I just wanted to give an example however random it may be. Most importantly you need to do you and not anyone else.

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