Are religious Narcissists really religious?

My mom (who is not an N or an E, and did her damndest to end the cycle of abuse she got from her own family) is a devout Catholic. Really, she is the reason I take as much solace in Catholicism, because she did the work and actually learned about her religion, and encouraged me to do the same (she didn't force me, I chose to learn what I did, just as my younger siblings chose to learn a little bit less).

Other members of my family...not so much. Raging histrionic NDad was only a Catholic when it suited him. When he was mad at my mother, he made a point of physically distancing himself from her at church to try and get the congregation on his side (which never worked, because he really was a gigantic jackassicle). Funnily enough, he changed churches to some sort of vague fundamentalist church when he divorced my mother to marry Nstepmother, probably because the Church heavily discourages divorce and he didn't want to do the work needed to get an annulment (Mom got to do all of that, as per protocol).

As for the other N's in my family I can think of...well, NDad's parents were punchclock Catholics. They sighed, huffed, glanced theatrically at their watches, and generally made arses of themselves if the Mass went on for over ten minutes. Going to the church they were accustomed to attending was like listening to a Chipmunk remix tape of the Catholic psalter; it was surreal.

On the other side of the family, there was Mom's mother. She came from a family of horrific abusers, and though she was not an N, because of the times she didn't get her FLEAS looked at until her children were grown up. Still, when she did get her head on straight, it was her staunch Catholicism that made her approach my mother and genuinely attempt to make things right with her. There are some things that an apology cannot fix, but she made one anyway, and so far has been good to her word that if there was anything at all she could do, she'd do it.

My uncle (mom's brother) is actually the closest thing to a religious N I've encountered. And he's...difficult, because he's got undiagnosed but plainly Asperger's, which means he's (a) set

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