This question is incredibly complicated. I did things outside the norm and very fun in my younger life and had a lot of doubts about marriage/family. But I eventually conformed, had a girl chase me relentlessly until we got engaged and married, went BACK to school in my 30s, and while I was not keen on having kids, the wife was again relentless. And she’d have no one else. I gave in. I absolutely adore my children. I’m not a perfect father, but I show them much love and affection and they live their best lives with me and the wife. Having said that, I am now trapped in the typical nuclear family, which was not what I wanted. Many promises/deals were made to get the ring, but not kept. I provide, the wife works when/if she chooses, and she mainly takes care of the kids… though I do a lot too. I sacrificed A LOT… and feel like, now that I’ve taken the leap of faith, though with hesitations, it has been underwhelming and not worth the problems and promises not kept. My kids have been an unbelievable gift. Love I cannot explain. But my partner is not who she was, and has not lived up to my expectations and promises… after quite the marathon tap dance. Regardless of what people say, divorce is a terrible option for men. Especially when you adore your children. Make absolutely fucking sure you WANT to get married and have kids FOR YOURSELF. Do not do it for someone else. There will always be a risk with taking the leap into marriage, but if you have doubts?! Don’t fucking do it. Don’t get trapped pleasing someone else. You WILL be disappointed. I know what I speak of.