Understand this. People are unique. Don't let anything like this ruin your life. Do what you want to do. Be the man or girl you want to be. Even if it takes time to get to that point, do it. Slow and steady wins the race. And it always will. Might I interest you in an example? 4 years ago, I weighted 84kg. I was a perspective young lad. But then things took a turn to the worse. I struggled and I still do. 4 months ago I had 103kg. Today, it is only 97kg. I'll get there. Eventually. Success? Abilities? Perks? I have a bachelor's degree with no relevant abilities that would make me a good acquisition for a better company. Am I trying? Yes I am. For 4 months I'm trying to find a better job. Am I going to succeed? Yes. Eventually. Looks? Still overweight with bad teeth. Will it get better? Well yes, it will. Eventually I'll lose weight. Eventually I'll repair my teeth when I'll get a job. But why am I even saying this? Because comparing myself to others was positive for me when I wanted to make a change in my life. Does the change come fast? Not at all. But I know I'm doing something to make my life better. It's in the feeling that you are going somewhere. It doesn't have to be a set goal. Just do the things you want to do, or you love to a point where you are satisfied with yourself. Are you overweight and love food? You can still eat what you like and lose weight at the same time. Exercise regularly (don't even need to go to the gym, there is all sorts of things that you can do to burn calories). No success or abilities? Create them. Set a few easy goals and a larger goal. Go for them. That it your personal success. People will always respect what you do if they're logical enough to find a connection between that and "daily life". Looks? Exercise, change your appearance, get a new haircut, new cosmetics etc.