Something I recently found out really upset me. My greedy NM couldn't even pay for the cheap, quick 'funeral' she had for my brother. A few weeks after it took place she contacted my father and stepmother asking to be reimbursed for this shitshow of an event without showing them an invoice. She asked for an amount and they gave it. A few weeks later she contacted them again asking for more money. My NM also sued my father a few times for unpaid CS when my brother and I were financially independent adults, behind my back, and I only heard about it years later. (she lost one suit and settled out of court with Nuncle for $8K).

My brother was GC as a kid but ignored once he got an apartment 3 hours away at his university at age 19 and rarely came back or talked to the family. He was diabetic as a kid but my mother didn't follow the treatment or diet, and he had alcohol/drug problems as a teenager and from what I've heard as an adult too. I barely knew him, NM heavily controlled out relationship. he was abusive towards me as a teen/young adult as well so I didn't make an effort to get contact info for him when I moved out. So I had no address, no phone number, no email, no nothing. He died suddenly at age 29.

My mother threw a quick, obviously cheap cremation that wasn't a real funeral. No death announcement, no flowers, no pictures, no eulogy, no viewing, etc. It was done in her hometown I guess so it was convenient for her, WTF-Grandma, and Nuncle rather than the city where he chose to have friends and live his adult life. Lots of people who knew him drove the 3 hours to attend what they thought was a funeral, but were made to wait in the lobby on the funeral home.