My friends are and most of my family are childfree for the most part. Those with children all have adult children whom won't be invited as I am not close to those kids. As for my FH he won't talk to me much about his guest list right now, we are still in the process of figuring out which parts of his family even need an invite as his family has over 100 people just on his dads side (and that is up to 1st cousins only). As for me not giving a shit per in another reply of mine, the people he is related to are insanely rude to me and at this point I don't want to really think about their feelings directly, they will complain no matter what and I really don't care now. To give an idea they are complaining the wedding isn't in their home town when the FH and I have no real connection to that town.

I interact with the father of the kids when I babysit, I wouldn't dare tell him to give his kids up one weekend unless I knew for sure it wouldn't come off as a bitch thing and I was on good terms with him. I am not. Thus small talk doesn't even happen when I do interact. It comes down to "Hi "Name of father" let me go get the girls from upstairs for you" or "hey, have a good evening see you later" It isn't freaking sharing life stories and such. As far as talking to the dad it would be just me mentioning the wedding if he were to ask because, well children talk about things that excite them and the kids know I am getting married and ask about the wedding and stuff all the time.

While I am glad to have the thoughts of an outside party. I think I goofed up by not putting in the regional location of the wedding as I have a feeling this could be a culture clash as others in my area have very less strong thoughts on it. Still all had different thoughts but none to say VERY offensive at that thought. Then again they may also have already been aware there are almost no children in my friends and family that are not grown up.