Why? Are promiscuous men somehow immune from cheating? Or is it okay for them to have all the partners they want?
Several factors...for one, according to statistics, men can have plenty of partners and apparently settle down in marriage and be OK, at least more than women.
Furthermore, for whatever reason, women seem more attracted to men who have had lots of women. Don't ask ME why...I'm a guy. But I know this is true. I am simply trying to tell you how men think when they are looking for prospective long term mates. It's common sense. If a woman told me she would only marry a man who wasn't promiscuous I would completely understand her decision and it would make logical sense.
You often hear about women complaining about "players" right? Well they complain because they want those men to settle down, but those men never do. Men tend to either: avoid the female version (a slut) for marriage or they lie to themselves and end up in marriages as the c word.
No it isn't. You have no evidence beyond some made-up data from ultra-religious or conservative websites. Even if that were true, why would that apply specifically to women?
How should I know? Ask those women why. Most likely driven by biology and also by culture. Women fuck the most attractive men they can genetically but those men will often decline to commit to them. So when it comes time for women to "settle down" they look for more stable partners, but that doesn't mean that is what they're attracted to sexually. So you have a woman who wants to fuck the hot bad boys but is stuck with a "boring" husband. Give it a few months or years and suddenly a "mistake" happens or a divorce is happening.
Look, you can think the above scenario is made up or never happens...that's fine. But if you're a woman, you don't have to face the same risks men do when getting married and you don't have to roll the dice on a "reformed" slut, that's just how it is. You're rolling the dice as a man, so why roll it on a girl like that? What's in it for the man to get married to a high risk woman?
Why the fuck is he marrying someone he doesn't trust? For all you know his wife lied when she said she was a virgin, so what good does asking even do if women supposedly can't be trusted? If he's that paranoid he has no business getting married.
Well this is why most men should not get married nowadays. Women are better at lying and concealing their past, so if a woman openly admits to having lots and lots of sex partners, then you REALLY dodge a bullet by not marrying her.
Divorces can destroy anyone's life.
Please. It statistically destroys men's life financially and in regards to them seeing their kids way way way way way more than the woman. Most of the time it's the man who pays alimony and child support and it's the man who goes to jail because he lost his job and couldn't afford child support (which can pretty much never be lowered, so if a man makes less at a new job he is fucked).
On the other hand, most women in marriages make less than men, and even the ones that make more still get custody of their kids most of the time, and most of the time the men who make less opt out of alimony so they aren't thought of as "bums" or "leeches" living off their ex wives.
Marriage is a huge risk for a man, moderate risk for a woman at worst.
Alimony pretty much never happens anymore and is extremely easy to avoid, just marry someone who works.
That's completely wrong and not how it works at all. It's determined by "standard of living". So if your husband makes 100k more than you, you're entitled to alimony to bring you up to a similar "Standard of living". Why do you think all of these rich men get destroyed in divorce? Even pre-nups can easily be circumvented by lawyers, they mean nothing.
Basically if you pay alimony it's your own fault because you were too stupid too marry someone with a job like a regular adult.
Not really but you are just giving more and more reasons for men to stay the fuck away from marriage completely.
Besides, studies show that the majority of men actually experience a substantial increase in their standard of living within five years of divorce.
Yeah less money and not being able to see your kids is a big increase in standard of living. I've known actual divorced men, they went from living in a house to living in a rented room literally eating soft pretzels for dinner.
Partner count tells you nothing - literally nothing - about someone's sexual habits.
It's laughable and astounding that you believe this...this needs to be quoted somewhere. This is fucking hilarious. "Someone's sexual past tells you nothing- LITERALLY nothing- about someone's sexual habits!" Good god, what mental gymnastics.
I like how you keep jumping to the most extreme definition
This stuff is fairly common among women in their 20s, it's not considered extreme.
Why don't you actually talk to people in the poly community instead of making assumptions based on some biotruth evopsych bullshit. Just because you wouldn't like it doesn't mean other people don't. You are not the representative of men and you don't speak for anyone but yourself
This isn't a brain buster. Most men can't get easy casual sex. Most women can. Most women in their 20s are going to be able to find sexual partners much much easier than the average man. So more often than not, a "poly" couple is going to be a girl fucking others guys and the "boyfriend" filming it while holding his dick. It's total bullshit and only a complete retard of a man with no self respect would stay with a girl who wanted that.