Tbh I don't feel bad for these people anymore. Because you try and try too help them, but they don't want too help themselves, and they come to you expecting pity because they keep causing their own problems.

I refuse to feel bad for more than a moment for someone who either I or someone else tries to help, but they choose too keep being the sole cause of their problems.

Its like I don't feel bad for a person who purposely shoots themselves in the leg, and then cries because their leg hurts. And expects you to help them carry their shit because their arms are using crutches.

I've just wasted too much time on people like this.

My girlfriend is kinda like this and she better cut it the Fuck out, as I said, because I'm done with it after 2 years.

She will tiptoe around me and not talk, "because she's afraid I will get mad" like I beat her or abuse her (i don't), which is frustrating as hell to deal with.

Then she asks are you mad? About 100 times a day, and I'll eventually snap back a "No! I'm frustrated you won't stop asking, and won't talk to me out of fear of making me mad, which annoys the hell out of me". Then she hides in the bedroom all day thinking I'm mad, when I'd be over it the second she stopped asking constantly and would just talk to me without feeling a need to watch what she says.

Then wants comforted and cries until I say it's ok, because she thinks I'm mad at her for talking, even when I tell her the only fucking reason I'm mad it's because you won't cut that shit out.

Its fucking infuriating. She's depressed, I'm borderline personality disorder with major panic attacks. She'll take her antidepressants won't go to a therapist because it costs too much even though I'd pay, won't tell me she's out of her meds till I notice she cries all day, then tells me she doesn't have 10 dollars for her meds, when she knows I'll pay. Fuck I pay all of rent and have for a year, and have gone about 4gs in debt in that time for it, so she can focus on school, but skips class and fails half her classes anyway.

Then gets pissy when she had to do dishes because she won't trust anyone but her to clean them, and when she has to take out the trash, when it's the least she can fucking do for eating most of my food.

Fuck I think I have a problem I've been avoiding.

I love her though so well work it out :)