One of my coworkers, who is "higher up in the chain" but not in my direct line of command, wigged out during a short meeting to review a project. "Sally" requested an infographic (I'm a designer) and wanted to discuss how it's not what she envisioned at all because it filled out the entire page when she printed it out. I asked her if she wanted me to resize it, and mentioned that I gave her the exact size she requested,. She gets out of her chair, stands next to me, and point at the printed infographic complaining nobody asked her further questions when she requested the project and she didn't know what she was looking at. I told her that we always ask for requestors to give us as much information prior to starting the project (like purpose, all size requirements, etc) so we can give them the best possible design. She gave us dimensions, the word "infographic" and the copy. She starts to get angry and says that she has never had to do that in her life, and that she personally feels like what I am requesting is Elitist (some spit lands on me face) and that the entire design team is elitist. I tell her that I haven't had any complaints from other requestors on the process and that she should talk to my boss if she has concerns, now more sternly. I also ask her what she actually envisioned if this is completely wrong like three times. She scoffs, says she can't deal with this right now, and says she will send me an email and storms out.

I talk to my boss and let him know what's going on. Everyone knows Sally has a tendency to start shit and to treat anyone under her as idiots who need to respect her. After he spoke to her, he explained to me that she printed the graphic at 400%, and how all she wanted was a different size for the graphic. I explained to him how I asked her directly the same thing, and he told me that Sally talks to people in management very differently and that she was in the wrong. I asked him if he apologized for me, and he said he apologized if i came off as disrespectful and that he would talk to me about my communication in the future. He reassured me I wasn't in the wrong and that she cornered me, but not to pick a fight with her again. I explain I didn't try to pick a fight, that I was stern and uncomfortable from her standing over me, and he told me that I just need to move on and forget it. Apparently Sally said that "she really liked me and really wanted me to succeed in my career" which I don't feel it to be a compliment, and my boss told me to not get my panties in a bunch, that it was totes a compliment, and to go home have a drink and forget about this work week. (we have a good relationship, so this wasn't uncalled for)

A year ago, Sally yelled at me in the car on a trip to Dallas when she got us lost and I asked her if she wanted me to pull up google maps. We were two hours away from the hotel at that point.

In my last review, I was told to be more confident and to stand up for myself more, but I guess in this case I should have just sat there? I feel really disappointed in my boss, as I see it as him enabling her behavior in the future since she can just get an apology from him. He works in another city, so he isn't in the same office.

Am I being oversensitive? Did my boss do the right thing? I feel really shitty, like he didn't have my back. Trollx ladies, please tell me to stop being a little bitch, or you know, what you would do in my shoes.

TLDR: A coworker was very rude to me, and my boss apologized on my behalf knowing very well she was in the wrong.