She wasn’t just saying it to me, it was a group conversation and we were talking about kids. We are way more open in this workplace than any other I’ve been in (we’re a team of 5 women), and we support each other in our personal lives as well as professional ones and know how to keep both separated when needed (my boss is still my boss and I’ll treat her so when working on a project, but then we become less serious when it’s break and bring out the cup of tea).

Sorry didn’t mean to direct it to you! And you didn’t give me the impression that you thought that way about overpopulation, just wanted to put everything in one message and thought you’d understand it better than most here (difference between being CF and disliking children).

I’d put myself through more invasive procedures if it could help someone, and I have put myself on the donor list for when I die. But that’s connected to me thinking that someone else’s life is worth more than mine, which is a subject for another thread.

I just want to make as many people as happy as I can if I know they’d deserve it. Which is why I’ll meet with the couple first, then go to specialist before I decide whether or not to go through with it.