My parents divorced when I was in 6th grade, and while it can be difficult to go from house to house every other week, I think I turned out alright. I think it depends on the terms you divorce on, though. My parents are still "friends" in that they see each other every couple days, we'll invite the other parent over for dinner, they share our pets, they're both in contact frequently, they never fight anymore, etc. In some ways, I think it turned out much better for them in the end. They both seem happier and at least they don't hate each other. If a couple divorces on bad terms (cheating, abuse, etc) it can impact a child's life GREATLY, but if they're good friends and your kid can say can say, "Can we go over to mom's house? I need to grab something" and to have you say yes, walk in with you, AND be civil to one another, then your child will turn out well enough.

Just don't try and jump into dating immediately. It took my dad 4-5 years after the divorce to finally start dating again, and by that time my sister was in 6th grade and I was a sophomore, so we were accepting of it, or at least a lot more than younger kids would have been. My mom still hasn't gotten back into dating, she simply doesn't want to. She went back to work and is usually busy, but she's happy and that's what matters. But make sure when you do start dating, explain to that person, "I'm still good friends with their mother, and that can't be an issue to you. She's the mother of my children and you'll have to deal with it."

It's also good for the new SO to realize that they will never take their original mother's place in the children's eyes. To this day, and I've made this clear to my father, if he gets re-married, I will never refer to her as mom and she will never get the same love I have for my real mother. If she makes him happy, that's great, good for him, I will just not acknowledge her as a new mother. She's just his wife, not my mother. So if that happens, know your kids will probably react the same way