It depends what kind of relationship you are going for. If you want a traditional relationship, this paying dynamic is the expectation. If you don’t want that, you need to find someone who has the same relationship expectations as you… or is the following: This is going to get mathy because I’m a math guy. We all want a partner that we view as relatively equal to ourselves. Why? Because realistically anyone objectively better than you can probably find someone else and if you are with someone objectively worse than you, you’ll feel like you can do better. Now when I say objectively better, I mean on aggregate, which includes a lot of subjective traits. For example, let’s say I’m a 5 overall if we were to survey every single woman on earth and the average woman thinks I’m a 4/10 funny. If I find a woman who thinks my particular humor is a 10/10 funny, that might make me a 6/7 in her eyes. So there is wiggle room for subjectivity. That said, anyone who is thinking a model that is kind, neat, well dressed, funny, popular, intelligent, and successful is going to go for a crackhead is out of their mind. So the takeaway is that you are GENERALLY going to end up with someone at roughly your level on the totem poll.

So, i wouldn’t personally recommend this, but if on aggregate she’s better than you in all of the non-financial categories, you can make up the difference financially. That’s more or less the basis of a traditional relationship. The woman has all these good traits: kind, neat, good cook, attractive, etc. And the man brings slightly less to the table (the reality of things when you have to spend 8 hrs/day working instead of getting good at other things), but evens the score with his income. So if you want to do some sort of hybrid “evening the score” with your money, go for it.